The ring’s been purchased, and now it’s time to pop the question: “Can we get a prenup?” We started First because we know that honesty, transparency, and communication are crucial to any good relationship. However, we’re well aware that sometimes taking the first step can be awkward! Here are four practical tips for keeping these discussions productive, enjoyable, and, dare we say…romantic ?!
1. Set the Stage for Open, Honest Conversations Choose a time and place where you both feel comfortable and free from distractions. Approach the conversation with honesty and transparency—share your income, debts, savings, and spending habits openly. The goal is to create a safe space where both of you can talk about your financial situations and dreams without judgment or pressure.
2. Align on Shared Goals and Expectations Start by talking about your individual life goals and financial priorities, then work together to find common ground. Whether it’s buying a home, traveling, or planning for retirement, aligning on your goals helps you operate as a team. Be realistic about what you can achieve together and set expectations that reflect both your current situation and your future ambitions.
At First, you will work with experienced family law attorneys to memorialize your wishes in accordance with state law. First’s patent-pending platform will walk you and your partner individually through disclosure of your assets, a quiz about your individual goals, and an alignment process during which you and your partner will find common ground. Concerned about pets , student loans , or a future inheritance ? If it’s on your mind, we have you covered.
4. Make Financial Honesty a Habit Financial secrets can erode trust, so commit to having regular, transparent check-ins about your finances. Plan to discuss any new expenses, changes in income, or concerns as they come up. Being upfront, even about the small stuff, will build a foundation of trust and help both of you avoid surprises. It’s also a requirement to make sure your prenup is enforceable.
5. Embrace Differences and Compromise It’s normal to have different perspectives on money and life goals. The key is to listen with empathy, respect each other’s viewpoints, and be willing to compromise. Disagreements can actually lead to better solutions if you approach them as opportunities to learn and grow together, rather than battles to win.
Open, ongoing communication about finances and life goals isn’t just about avoiding problems—it’s about building a partnership where both people feel heard, respected, and supported. With these tips, you’ll be well on your way to a stronger, more connected relationship. Book a consultation call with First today!
